Kisses to the Future Misses

Sis!!!! Are you listening?!

I'm going to be perfectly honest with you right now--- You don't have to cook, clean, work, be perfectly groomed, (stereotypically) beautiful, modest or be anything near "great" to "have" a man... Lol. The gag is, and hear me clearly, 🗣️ NONE of it matters!!! Don't let society or culture convince you that it does, trust me it doesn't. The idea that a woman has to conform to the images of the "ideal woman" in order to attain companionship is a social construct pushed by the complementary (because are they really opposite?) sex to push women into competition with each other. Yeah, I'm good on that. 🥴

Unpopular opinion:

ANYONE can partner with someone. In my experience and observation, it literally is easier to get into a relationship than it is to wait for an opportunity to be in a relationship that meets your standards, end goals, and desires. 🤷🏾‍♀️

The moral of the story is: Be your best you FOR YOU sis; So that, no matter who comes or goes, you still have the best version of you intact! The "right" man for you is not manifested in your deeds or perceived perfection, but rather in the timing, his readiness to establish a committed relationship with someone, and his unwillingness to return to a life in which you no longer operate in the capacity that you currently are. You'll never be right enough for the wrong person. This doesn't mean you or the person is good or bad--- it simply means that "right" is still seeking you just as you are seeking it. I have spoken to so many married people throughout my life and the most common advice they have given me is to take my time. There is nothing to gain from rushing into a relationship just for the sake of "belonging" to someone. 💁🏾‍♀️ And before you start listing off "exceptions to the rule", this is NOT A RULE, it is an observation. But hey, regardless of how you choose to go about it, I support and love you in that! I am by no means saying that there is anything wrong with desiring romantic partnership/ companionship nor is it wrong to desire to be attractive to potential partners. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with doing whatever you feel like you need to do to attain your desired end goal. I just want to inform/ remind you that nothing is more important than protecting and feeding the light within you. 🙃

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